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Bébhinn Farrell, BA, MSc

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experience3 Years of Experience

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About Bébhinn Farrell

 

Bébhinn Farrell is a psychotherapist based in Dublin, Ireland. She offers supportive, non-judgemental therapy in a safe environment where you are free to talk in confidence. Bébhinn has both a Degree in Psychology and an MSc in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy from University College Dublin and has been working in private practice for 3 years.

"As a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist, I work to empower women to shed negative self beliefs which fuel anxieties and fears and contribute to a lack of self esteem.

I want to share a message of female empowerment, both regarding self sufficiency and in our relationships, allowing my clients to see that they have the strength, resilience and power to create they future they have always wanted. I help women become the very best possible version of their perfectly imperfect selves.

 

I was led to this work through my own struggles with an anxiety disorder that I was diagnosed with at age 18. The more I worked on my anxiety, the more I was able to see, along with many other factors related to my life, just how much of it was fuelled by societal and cultural factors which we internalise and put on ourselves -  the toxic, unhealthy messages that damage our self-esteem since we are young girls.

Despite trying numerous methods, from psychiatry to hypnosis, seeing the difference my own psychotherapist made in my life, and learning through being honest with my own story, changed my life.  Along with helping me understand the causes of my anxiety, the work I did with her opened a window to just how many people were struggling with mental health issues.  I couldn’t imagine doing any other work with my life.  I was able to see just how much support we as women need and deserve in a world which is often extremely hostile towards us.

While I have worked with and still work with male clients and am fully aware that they have just as many difficulties as we do, often coming from the same sources, it seems that female identifying clients are most drawn to my practice.

My clients relate to feelings of frustration, anger, sadness and feeling either lost or trapped. My style of therapy makes a difference in their lives because it allows them to stop self-blaming and to understand the root causes of their issues, and how these issues impact their day to day lives via false (learned) belief systems.

It allows them to feel positive and hopeful and shift negative patterns of behaviour, emotions or thoughts.

Clients can expect me to be warm and open without any blaming or shaming in my therapy. I offer a directness that is constructive, not judgemental. My therapy is a conversational experience with someone who understands the realities of the modern female experience without presuming to know you better than you know yourself. We do this work together.

What I don’t do – act as if I have all the answers. Treat all pushback as defensiveness. Be cold and authoratative. Not hear you. Judge your life choices. Assume that anyone other than you is an expert on your life. Push personal opinions or viewpoints onto you.

 

Therapy will unfold naturally, in a safe and welcoming space, at a pace that you feel comfortable with.  As one client put it, it’s gives you time out of your busy life to “be fully immersed in your path to greater self-development”

Within this space I’m also able to offer insight through the practice of psychoanalysis that will help you see your life experiences and challenges from different perspectives, and allow them to become more manageable, leaving you feeling less overwhelmed.

I can then provide concrete strategies, advice and support to enable new outlooks and improved behaviour and choices, while also coaching you through the most difficult times as they are unfolding.

As another client put it “it’s like talking to one of your friends, but one who is professionally qualified and will call you on your shit!” Warmth does not get in the way of the work!

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People get better with me often because we go deep into the origins of their pain, but gently and at a pace that feels safe. Through analysis, we begin to understand why we do things we do and feel the way we feel.  Only then can we change our beliefs and behaviours. The next step is concrete support and tools to progress with a happy and satisfying life.

Anxiety disorders are vastly higher in women.  While there are many factors involved in the development of anxiety, there is no doubt that the pressures on women in a statistically unequal world have a great impact on our mental and emotional wellbeing. We hold false, impossible narratives about who we are and what we are supposed to be. We have internalised the views imposed on us by our societies, our cultures, our friends and our families, about what it is to be a woman and what success and happiness is supposed to look like.

We gain a strong sense of self through being self aware.  This self-awareness can only come from deep reflection and self-investigation, which in turn leads to self-acceptance and high self-esteem and self-love.  It allows us to set boundaries and let go of fears and resentments, cultivating patience and calm.  We also do this when we see how many of our issues are not actually OURS, they are issues that are universal for women.  Separating these issues from our own specific experiences allows us a freedom that we never even knew we needed.

 

I have a BA in psychology and an MSc in Psychoanalytic psychotherapy, both from University College Dublin. The BA is accredited by the Psychological Society of Ireland and the MSc is accredited by the Association of Psychoanalytic Psychotherapists of Ireland.

In addition to my professional training and qualifications, my style has also also shaped by my experiences in activism for women’s issues. In particular, the Irish pro-choice movement in which I was heavily involved in organising marches, running social media campaigns and fundraising. My undergrad thesis was about the psychological impact of criminalisation of abortion on women.

I share this information with you because my work in these areas and all the voices I’ve heard can sometimes inform my therapy just as much as my years of analysis training and supervision, and just as much as my own experiences of therapy and the stigma surrounding mental health. Women’s stories are powerful, and I work in a way in which women’s voices are truly heard.

Specialties

Anxiety, Self Esteem, Women’s Issues

Languages

English

Age Group Focus

Adults

Treatment Approaches

Coaching, Culturally Sensitive, Emotionally Focused, Feminist, Humanistic, Mindfulness-based (MBCT), Psychoanalytic, Psychodynamic, Relational

Issues

Academic issues, Addiction, Alcohol Abuse, Anger Management, Anxiety, Behavior Issues, Bipolar Disorder, Borderline Personality, Career Counseling, Caregiver Stress, Chronic Pain, Codependency, Coping Skills, Depression, Divorce, Drug Abuse, Family Conflict, Goal Setting, Infidelity, Introversion, Leadership, Life Coaching, Marital / Premarital, Obesity, OCD, Relationship Issues, Self Esteem, Sexual Abuse, Spirituality, Transgender, Weight Loss, Women’s Issues

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